Not being able to forgive is ruining your life in so many ways. What are you gaining from holding onto the hatred and resentment? Do you think that if you forgive them then it will mean that it wasn’t important and tragic for you? Do you think that if you forgive them then they’ll get away with it?
I can see where you’re coming from, honestly, it just makes me very sad. It’s sad because you are responsible for your own happiness in life and blaming someone else is okay to a point, because you’re angry right now, but then you have to let it go and move on.
Life will carry on regardless of what’s been done to you, but it’s up to you to decide it you want to carry the burning rage and festering resentment around with you and spoil any chance of happiness in the future.
Not Being Able to Forgive Them Will Make You Ill
No doubt you’ve heard the quote about holding on to resent is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die. It’s true. Louise Hay writes in Heal Your Body that deep resentment held for a long time literally eats away at the body.
She has many pages of ailments listed, all with an emotional cause and an affirmation to release those trapped emotions. She mentions that the mental thought patterns that cause the most disease in the body are criticism, anger, resentment and guilt. These are biggies that I’m sure most people can relate to at one time or another.
How Long Have You Not Been Able to Forgive This Person?
If you’ve been angry or resentful for a couple of weeks you’re probably just feeling drained, fed up and pretty low right now. It’s unlikely to do you any lasting damage. Your immune system may be lowered though, leaving you vulnerable to a cold or a bug, but you’ll live.
Fast forward that to a year, 5 years, 10 years, 20 years and what might be festering in your body now? Your emotions have a direct link to your physical health. If you’re going round with hatred and resentment bubbling inside you can’t expect your body to feel great. Even if you feel fine right now, what’s going on in the inside?
What’s that? “I don’t care if it makes me ill because then he/she will know what they’ve done to me!” You would do that to yourself in order to get your ‘day in court?’
Make This Could Be Your Time to Forgive?
If you decide that your hate or anger for the other person is stronger than the love you have for yourself then that’s your choice. It’s not for anyone to judge you, we are all at a different place in our learning and development. There’s nothing like a stressful life experience to teach you things though.
What if you could decide that you’ve had enough and it’s time to start living again?
What if you could decide that you owe it to yourself to get on with your life, and not think what other people are up to?
What if you could decide to try and love yourself again, enough for you to keep healthy and be happy?
It’s your choice and no-one can or should force you. It literally is a life-changing decision.
Leave us a comment below and let us you know if you decide you are ready to forgive. Even a small change is good, it’s still a start.